When Your Yes To Others Means No To You


“When you say yes to others, make sure you are not saying no to yourself.” ~ Paulo Coelho

LET’S FACE IT. WE ALL WANT TO BE the type of person whom others can count on.

It makes you feel good, right?

But what happens when saying ‘YES’  distracts you from pursuing your goals?

I’ve been giving a lot of thought to what it means to pursue goals in my work with others.

At times it becomes necessary to be single-minded, about pursuing your goals, and say ‘NO’ when other opportunities arise that can distract you from the job at hand.

Does that mean you should never say ‘YES’  to others?

Of course not!

You must, however, be very mindful of the consequences of saying ‘YES.’

You mustn’t let your yeses become a convenient reason to waylay your vision – even if pursuing your vision is scary and saying ‘YES’  feels safe!

When your YES to others means NO to you, are you not robbing yourself from that which would give you and your organization vibrant life and purpose?

How do you keep yourself from becoming distracted? How do you draw the line between YES and NO?

*This is an edited version of an article I originally posted at TALKTODIANA on September 8, 2013

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